Immortal Love…

While talking to a thinker yesterday, I realized that life wounds all of us. At best there is sorrow enough to go round. Yet because the deepest wounds are those of the soul and hidden to mortal sight, we keep hurting each other day by day, inflicting wounds that time mercifully scars over. But the scars remain, ready at a touch to throb angrily and ache again with the old gnawing wild pain…

We all bear scars. Life is a struggle, and hurts must come. What needs to be considered is that we shouldn’t be the reason of anyone’s agony. Pains are part of life. But why the unnecessary ones? Why hurt the souls of innocent people? Why say things to them that they must remember with pain all their lives? Why say the smart, tart thing that goes straight to the heart of someone we love because we would relieve ourselves of the day’s tension and throw off a grain of the soul’s bitterness? Who are we to inflict wounds and suffering and scars on those about us? Staggering, blind mortals, groping our way from somewhere “here” to somewhere “there” conscious of little but the effort to stay “here” a little longer!  It behooves us to travel softly, regardful of one another’s happiness, particularly where our path crosses that of those dependent upon us for comfort or enters into the heart of innocent and sincere relations.

At times, life throws us from the seventh sky on the ground. Recalling those bitter and crushing memories renew the ache in our breast and the throb of pain in our throat. The scars provided by love are always thin, and the hurt beneath it quivers quickly. Lost, betrayed and shattered with a drowning heart we get engulfed by a layer of questions; Why me? What action of mine led to such circumstances? Is God checking/testing me or punishing me for my deeds? Never-ending list of questions make everything in our mind jumbled and we are left with uncertainty and doubt.


But right in that peak moment of doubt and dismay, a virtual hand comes and lifts us up. The softening and comforting tissues heal our wounds and the understanding pat on our shoulder makes us learn what we were supposed to learn from all those experiences. That hand, that realization and that support which becomes our companion when we think that we don’t deserve any love is by no one but the Eternal Love, Our Creator.

They say that “To trust in the arm of flesh is foolishness; to suppose that we are self-sufficient is naive. This nation will survive and prosper only as God permits it to do so, and his permission rests upon our obedience to him and his gospel. He brought forth this nation. He gave us our liberty. He inspired our federal constitution. But it is for us to preserve these priceless blessings by our repentance and obedience to God. Our sins and haughty attitudes can only bring us sorrow.” Allah allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in ANY other way. The way we learn those lessons is NOT to deny the feelings BUT to find the meanings underlying them.

It’s said that ‘God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks to us in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: It is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world’…

So, if anyone of you is also going through a twisted phase of life, look inside your heart and rebuild your connection with The One who’s most sincere of all. Because certainly He is the most loyal. He never leaves you no matter what you do, UNLESS you’re not willing to be loved by Him. I read a quote saying, ‘When someone walks out on you.. God walks in.. He’s been there the whole time. Your NOT alone’. Remember one thing, God is never angry to you. He’s just disappointed, or proud of you.

And as they say, ‘Though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us don’t’. So Let us all ‘try’ to make Him feel proud by submitting our desires to Him! =)

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Escapism & Frustration…

It’s not very long ago when I found myself surrounded with a pinching question. A question so strong that it detached me from myself. A question so harsh that it made me ready to give up everything and all energies I ever possessed. The question which made my mind wander on the realms of a thought that ‘Why do we go for escapism often ‘despite’ knowing ALL aspects and being agreed to ones who say that escapism gives one NOTHING? Despite knowing every single aspect and being matured enough to realize realities, why we find ourself inclined towards escapism and then end up being frustrated?

I was told to believe in my conciousness cuz these frustrated random thoughts are supposed to originate from sub-conciousness. But what if we dominate conciousness by supressing subconciousness and still get nothing in return? What if doing so introduces fights within ourselves? We get engaged in inner fights. What if one realises the importance of failures in life and does believe in significance of failures in life but still can’t help being an escapist after meeting any failure?

They say… escapism is essential because its only so much one can take. And frustration is the natural response to the problems of life. But sometimes frustration is NOT the response to problems of life. It’s rather that one lacks strength in relation with himself at that time. But how to revive and boast up this strength? At times, we know all reasons and solutions but still get unable to figure out the LINK which connects reason and solution.

Everyone feels the desire to escape. No matter HOW good you have it, there are times when, instead of dealing with problems, you’d rather pretend they don’t exist. We turn to bad habits because they allow us to forget. They give us a pleasurable sensation that pushes problems out of mind.

I once read that man staggers through life yapped at by his reason, pulled and shoved by his appetites, whispered to by fears, beckoned by hopes. Small wonder that what he craves most is ‘self-forgetting‘. It’s my contention that “escapism gives one nothing” can easily be disputed by the story of Archimedes and his discovery of volume. He was perplexed when he was told to determine that a crown was pure gold or was alloyed with silver. His wife’s suggestion to “take a bath” was a form of recreation which is in turn a form of escapism. What is of great importance is the MEANS by which we escape: a long bath after a dilligent day may not be such a bad thing, for we are not machines and we are subject to fatigue; however, drowning our sorrows because turning and running from a monumental impasse does no good — we turn ourselves into cowards. The downfall of this solution is that it’s only temporary. The feeling wears off and the problems remain, often made worse by our indulgence. Once again faced with our problems, the natural reaction is to escape again, undergoing a cycle of escapism. We feel pain each time we face reality, so we use a bad habit to escape, which only increases our pain, making us more desperate to escape. Each time around it takes more sensation to escape, increasing our dependency on a bad habit. When you get caught in the whirlpool of escapism, it can feel impossible to get out UNTILL & UNLESS you revive strength within yourself and be strong to FACE things. Escaping iniquitously is a hinderance to allowing our inner beauty to blossom.

As for frustration… the reason it arises within us is a result of either one or both of these factors: (1) the world does not conform to us and/or (2) <an unexpected negative event occurs. To become infuriated at an individual for maintaining atheism is to reside in a delusional world where atheism doesn’t exist or where no one holds this view. Once a person accepts that bad things and different perspectives are imminent, he also better copes with his frustration and anger.

A point to be noted is that BOTH these points are concordant to one: Ignorance. People choose to escape rather than face their issues simply because they do not know better; the same logic is applicable the consolation of frustration. A friend of mine once said to me that When we have “preferences messed up”… we fail… and we loose confidence.. and THAT is when we fight with us.

“Problem knocks your life NOT to create another problem of tension…
BUT
for you to teach the ‘tact’ of solving any other future problem.”

PS: I have added ‘rating’ to my blog posts and comments today =) For those who wished to just like or dislike something, now can go for it.

Death…

April 19…

The day makes me engulfed with a strange layer. I wish I could say that the day brings back memories but my mind was too young at that time to become a haven for reminiscences. It was too adolescent to retain the cherishing moments of a relation I lost in ashes of life and sands of time for the first time.

All my life, I always wondered about how my life would’ve been if she were alive today. I was lost amidst similar thoughts today as well when I encountered Umer Toor’s blog and a question written there that : ‘Why we run away from something too certain as death? I don’t. “More certain is death than even taxes.” Even so, why?’

I don’t know the exact answer, but perhaps most of us feel that we COULD accept death for ourselves and for those we love IF it did not often seem to come with such ‘untimeliness’. But we rebel when it so little considers our wishes or our readiness. But we may well ask ourselves when would we be willing to part with or to part from those we love? And who is there among us whose judgment we would trust to measure out our lives? Such decisions would be TERRIBLE for mere men to make. But fortunately we are spared making them; fortunately they are made by wisdom higher than ours. =) And when death makes its visitations among us, inconsolable grief and rebellious bitterness should have NO place. There must be no quarrel with irrevocable facts. Even when death comes by events which seem unnecessary and avoidable, we NEED to and MUST learn to accept what we cannot help (:

Indeed, the greatest blessing that can follow the death of those we love is reconciliation. Without it there is no peace. But with it come quiet thoughts and quickened memories. And what else shall a man do except to become reconciled? What purpose does he really serve by fighting what he cannot touch or by brooding upon what he can NOT change? We have to trust The Creator for so many things, and it is but one thing MORE to trust Him in the issues of life and death, and to accept the fact that His plans and promises and purposes transcend the bounds of this world and of this life. With such faith the years are kind, and peace and reconciliation DO come to those who have laid to rest their loved ones and – who, even in death, are not far removed from us. Bitter grief without reconciliation serves NO good purpose. And reconciliation, if not aided by strength of faith, is useless =)

I had read at some place long ago that ‘If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.’ And to me, love is judged by the prayers we continue for the soul after death of the ‘body’.

Oh but don’t forget, ‘Death comes to all of us, but SO does life everlasting’ =)

Death is not the end. Death can never be the end.
Death is the road. Life is the traveller…
& The Soul is the Guide!

Reminiscences.. Strength or Weakness?

My post is for someone whom I don’t want to see getting faded with the strong strokes of pain caused by ‘recalling memories’.. And for everyone who gets in state of bewilderment by travelling in past routes of life and ones who get haunted by old memories of those who’ve have been special to them sometime, somewhere in life..


Relation.. This apparently simple-looking makes me aware of a lot many moods and conditions in my life. Where I get stuck at solving its never revealed mysteries, I also get surrounded by a strong layer of ecstasy.. Ecstasy which makes me forget everything else, and makes me sense the power of love in my bonds.. (Be they of family,closed ones, siblings or friends). Where this overwhelming of emotions helps me cherish the strength of my linkages, at the same time it places me in desert of fears.. (We’ll be discussing fears at some other time though..!!) But the top one of them ‘now’ has always been a fear of getting this relation ended at a worst turn at any step of life in future.


NO relation is permanent. We all can never deny it.. Can we?! The only relation which has proved its durability always is the relation with relation-Creator i.e Allah Almighty. The way which leads to Omnipresent has no ‘end’ provided the direction is true. But when I fear the ‘type‘ of end of a relation, then it’s because it’s only this kind which can either make us refresh the relation always or can even make high notes painful. It ‘apparently’ possesses the strength to decide the fate of ‘impact’ which a relation leaves on our life.


I close my eyes for a while and while being engulfed by the darkness (not in sense of ‘vision’ obviously) , I realize the power of ‘memories’ on our life. Reminiscences flood in, seeing anything from the Earth to the skies..Swelling hearts and brimming tears indicate the Parting of the Ways; Embittered souls curse unforgiving, unceasing time that flies. And I find someone inside me screaming to have an answer of a question.. A question which says that “Will these young (This youth has to do with ecstasy brought by power of love) hearts ever re-live their memorable days?”


Though mostly I don’t get this answer. But life did make me realize few more answers. On top, lies the realization that we may not decide or do anything (yes, sometimes we really get unable to do something. Poor helpless souls! Aren’t we?? Lol) about the ‘kind’ which a relation opts while being go out of our life (not from our hearts though!) .. But YES!! We definitely can do about WHAT kind of impact will that be going to leave on our lives.. We can do about the effect caused by ‘worst ends’ on our behaviours.. Strange!! Isn’t it?!


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Although you may not appear to have the strength to bear the pain caused by haunting demons of memories, do not claim its possession is beyond you. Rather, rejoice in the knowledge that these memories are linked to YOU. They make you what you ARE now!! Do this and you will produce an emotional response which is necessary for seedtime.


Revival of reminiscences becomes source of breakage inside and weakness when there’s disappointment; leading us to a blind alley. It appears to be a bitter pill when our FAITH shatters.. faith in ourselves, our relation, our love, purity of our intentions and most significantly, faith in Almighty.


Have you ever tried burying the pinching memories and digging out the refreshing ones while recalling reminiscenses?? Have you ever put an effort to only remember the good times and forgive/let go/forget the bad ones just for the sake of love you have for that relation? I repeat “Letting go has NEVER been an easy job, I know it isn’t.. but holding on can be as difficult, (trust me it does get at times) for strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go”. But after letting go, have you ever learned from the experience and lesson that ‘end’ supposed to convey?! Have you ever tried being thankful to the person for making you what you are today, without his support (be that in high notes or low notes, depends on your learning procedure in life) you couldn’t have been the same.. And have you ever tried realizing that your being same can be because of many reasons, reasons which Allah wants YOU to figure out in order to meet the demands of your existence. Have you?!!!


Try doing it for once at least.. And you’ll know how much pain does it release to think that these relations and their memories, no matter WHAT, are your strength NOT weakness :) There are some things in life that don’t go the way you want them to or the way you think they should, but you can’t dwell on these because you’ll miss out on other opportunites. Don’t give up one something just because you don’t think things will work, you won’t know unless you give it a try. But don’t hold onto something that left a long time ago, because sooner or later you’ll realize some things just are NOT meant to be…


Cheer up.. for ALLAH sends relations in your life for some purpose (: Don’t let that purpose decided by ‘Almighty’ fade away because of ‘human’ behaviours. May Allah be guider and helper of everyone of us in all we do, Ameen (:

PS : I know I’m being absent from blog for a long time. I had to come up with details of everything, from my mood to my passions.. But guess everything has an appropriate time to be said (: Will be telling in detail about my present happenings in upcoming posts, inshALLAH.

Overcoming Chaos..

My this post is NOT written by me (: But it’s something which always uplifts my spirit.
And am adding it for all those who’re distracted from their paths in realm of chaos.. Cuz I don’t want to see them all depressed!(:

A time comes in your life when you finally get it… When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are… and that’s OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

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You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are, what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process you learn to go with your instincts. You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change so it is with love…. and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms… just to make you happy. And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely…

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you CAN!!.

Especially dedicated to Seemi (:
Also not to forget Umeed aapi(AD)

Contented Soul..

Am including a new category “Therapy Session” especially for few people I’ve been encountering these days who’ve turned to wandering souls in deep deserts of enigmatic negotiations.. It’s an effort to heal their shattered souls (:<

I had written the passage below almost three years ago, when i was in metric (10th grade)..for my own magazine*innocent smiley*.. It appears very simple (in matter of linguistic skills) now. But still, these tips have been useful for me till now.

“If there is light in soul, there will be beauty in the person. If there is beauty in the person,there will be harmony in the house. If there’s harmony in the house, there will be order in the nation. If there’s order in a nation, there will be peace in the world!!”

Dear fellows, just for a single moment,do yourself a favour , take a short leave from your busy routine, sit back, close your eyes and when you feel a bit relaxed,have a peep inside your ownselves. And try to find out if there’s even a single trace of that light in your soul which can work miracles. It may sound rediculous,absurd,odd may be non-practical too, but just try it. Believe me it’s a treat worth giving a shot. And when you find out that light inside you,bring it out and try to spread it all around. You’ll defintely see its magic then.

Though it’s precious beyond imagination still it’s not rare because it is present inside every living soul (: It’s only that we usually dont know the EXACT place to look for it. The best way to find it is to let noone ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God Almighty’s kindness ; kindness in your face, kindness in your eys,kindness in your warm greetings!!!

Just try out these simple recipies of a happy and contented soul and you’ll feel that there’s only smiles and smiles all around you and inside you!! Best of luck for making your soul a contented one (: