Overcoming Chaos..

My this post is NOT written by me (: But it’s something which always uplifts my spirit.
And am adding it for all those who’re distracted from their paths in realm of chaos.. Cuz I don’t want to see them all depressed!(:

A time comes in your life when you finally get it… When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are… and that’s OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.


You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are, what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process you learn to go with your instincts. You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change so it is with love…. and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms… just to make you happy. And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely…

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you CAN!!.

Especially dedicated to Seemi (:
Also not to forget Umeed aapi(AD)



  1. Aww…sweetheart….that means alot!
    I am not supposed to say thanks, but even if i was i wouldn’t have because thank you is just a small word for what i feel right now….

    Love you

    Seemi :)

    • Ermm ermm ermmm:)

      You don’t even need to say thanks to me ever. Especially not for things, which couldn’t ermm:) kher..

      Love you too!:)*huggie*

  2. you touched teh chords of my heart honey.
    thank you so much.
    indeed it takes us all a while and in the end we come out the way that which fits the facade of the world.

    but with me it is a little different.
    i m a little rebellious.
    i dont go by what most people would.
    what they do, i wouldnt do.
    and though it all is about not the right person and the right life, it sure is the right time for me. the time makes everything not right, right!

    life will shape up as you want it to.
    last night i pledged something to Allah.
    today starts my test of keeping my pledge for a better life :)

    and so Allah has willed.

    thank you sweetheart.
    this means a lot

    • Awww (:

      Allah has willed the betterment of all of us.. after all he loves us a LOT.. It’s just we never realized the intensity of HIS love for us.. but am glad to see that you’ve began to do by enlightening your soul with shine of hope (:

      You’re always welcomed Umeed aapi (: Umeed aapi.. na-umeed hoon, tow mujhe achha thori lage ga, hmm?

      Pleasure is all mine (: You just take care of yourself and be as strong as you are!!

  3. Well said! its true!

    I love your blog template

    • Welcome to my blog! (: And thanks a lot for liking template and post.

      Will though be honored to know your views as well (:

  4. that was a beautiful post :)

    • Thank you (:

  5. hmmm… inspiring :)

    So you see, probably ‘iztaraab’ isn’t that undesirable a thing after all. It does disturb us – and quite badly so – initially but most of the times it results in our emotional, psychological and spiritual development. Probably that is why Iqbal desired ‘iztaraab’ for the youth of this nation when he said,

    ‘Khuda tujhe kisi toofaan se aashna kar de
    Ke teray bahar ki maujon mein iztaraab nahi’

    • Errr (: VERY well said.. and indeed a needed reminder yet a lesson for me (: I, despite knowing it, fail to implement it in my realization sometimes and feel that it’s basically my conciousness which haunts me. While it’s perhaps not dealing with that conciousness properly.

      Thank you so much for your precious comment (: Your comments always have something new to learn. Means a lot.

  6. inspiring and motivating…(y)

    • Ermm (: Thanks for reading.

  7. where are you hiding?

    • :) *huggie*

      Bash.. :) How’re you feeling these days?

  8. Such motivational and inspirational stuff is the signature of your blog. A worthy post!

    • Err err errrr (: It’s such a BIG compliment about my blog, you know?!

      Means a lot.. It really DOES! (:

      PS : I’ve not been able to check your blog from a LONG time. Will soon check it, inshALLAH (: Pardon me for that.

  9. The spotlight of text should be ‘must read’ & ‘must understand’ for today’s emotionally dejected generation. Satisfaction rests within your heart whilst strayed humanity keeps on searching it outside; eventually landing in a desolate valley of tears and cries.
    Reality bites when you take your eyes off it. Embrace the truth and dance happily whether it’s sun or drizzling.

    It was a good self exploration guide.

    • I must say that this is one of most fascinating comments I’ve ever got on my blog:)

      “Satisfaction rests within your heart whilst strayed humanity keeps on searching it outside; eventually landing in a desolate valley of tears and cries.
      Reality bites when you take your eyes off it. Embrace the truth and dance happily whether it’s sun or drizzling.”

      VERY well-said :) Cant thank you enough for your valuable comment.

      Welcome to my blog :) Hoping to be learn a lot from you through our world of writings.

  10. Rhetoric in a handsome manner…! Nice read, it was… :)

    • Thank you for your precious comment:)

  11. Thats a nice post really. Life really is a series of these phases, day in and day out. We continously fight with ourselves. I love your words “You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind”. Thats when we start looking for hope, thats when a new day starts…

    • True you are at each and every angle of thought :) May Allah bless us with strong faith and courage to be triumphant in all these tussles and fights, Ameen :)

  12. I see wat u mean when u say it uplifts your spirit!
    Its something that i too would love to refer to in time of regret and sorrow!

    • =)

  13. Thank you for sharing it with me. It is one of the nice articles I ever read.

    • :) Thank you for taking time out to read.

  14. thats a brilliant inspiring post ! thank you :)

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